Comments on: A Dream, and the Following Thereof… http://otherdeb.wordpress.com/2008/06/16/50/ A blog about getting out of debt, regaining equilibrium, and writing Tue, 02 Jun 2009 08:20:10 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: otherdeb http://otherdeb.wordpress.com/2008/06/16/50/#comment-163 otherdeb Mon, 23 Jun 2008 04:23:32 +0000 http://otherdeb.wordpress.com/?p=50#comment-163 @SusanO: Ah, yes, there are still some of us old-timers who remember GEnie fondly! Sadly I never got involved in the WELL...long story , not worth going into or very relevant at this point. I love Jon Carroll's work, and read his columns regularly. Anne Lamott isn't my cup of tea, but I will definitely search out Sue Hubbell! And thank you so much for the recommendation! Love trying new essayists and columnists to add to my list! @SusanO: Ah, yes, there are still some of us old-timers who remember GEnie fondly!

Sadly I never got involved in the WELL…long story , not worth going into or very relevant at this point. I love Jon Carroll’s work, and read his columns regularly. Anne Lamott isn’t my cup of tea, but I will definitely search out Sue Hubbell! And thank you so much for the recommendation! Love trying new essayists and columnists to add to my list!

]]> By: SusanO http://otherdeb.wordpress.com/2008/06/16/50/#comment-161 SusanO Sat, 21 Jun 2008 00:21:24 +0000 http://otherdeb.wordpress.com/?p=50#comment-161 Ah, GEnie! Say, you aren't by any chance a member of the WELL, are you? I love essayists too; my old standbys are Jon Carroll (he a book or two, and he's available thru the SF Chronicle's web site www.sfgate.com) and Anne Lamott, but I've just discovered Sue Hubbell, who writes a lot about making a life for herself living in an Ozarks cabin raising bees and selling honey. Ah, GEnie! Say, you aren’t by any chance a member of the WELL, are you?

I love essayists too; my old standbys are Jon Carroll (he a book or two, and he’s available thru the SF Chronicle’s web site http://www.sfgate.com) and Anne Lamott, but I’ve just discovered Sue Hubbell, who writes a lot about making a life for herself living in an Ozarks cabin raising bees and selling honey.

]]> By: otherdeb http://otherdeb.wordpress.com/2008/06/16/50/#comment-150 otherdeb Tue, 17 Jun 2008 00:17:40 +0000 http://otherdeb.wordpress.com/?p=50#comment-150 @Ariella: I remember you quite well. We had that wonderful train ride home from Cris's place. The thing is, that the damage can be corrected. What my father did doesn't run my life. In fact, I have turned it into a strength...I firmly believe that, although unintentional, he gave me the greatest gift of all: he made me strong enough to survive. Mind, it wasn't an easy process. It took a heck of a lot of self-examination, some of which was on the painful side of things. I've become a great believer in every step I have taken being responsible for me being where I am. Through some combination of stubbornness, faith, and -- to quote the late <a href="http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0002106/" rel="nofollow">Ruth Gordon<a> -- never facing facts. I am now poised to turn my life into what I want. By the way, and speaking of Ruth Gordon...if you ever want to see a movie about affirming life, check out the wonderful <a href=http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0067185/<i>Harold and Maude</i></a>. That and the equally wonderful <i>Hairspray</i>, (preferably the <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0095270/" rel="nofollow">original John Waters film</a>, although the <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0427327/" rel="nofollow">more recent version with John Travolta</a> is also good) had a huge influence in cementing my belief in following your heart. @Ariella: I remember you quite well. We had that wonderful train ride home from Cris’s place.

The thing is, that the damage can be corrected. What my father did doesn’t run my life. In fact, I have turned it into a strength…I firmly believe that, although unintentional, he gave me the greatest gift of all: he made me strong enough to survive.

Mind, it wasn’t an easy process. It took a heck of a lot of self-examination, some of which was on the painful side of things.

I’ve become a great believer in every step I have taken being responsible for me being where I am. Through some combination of stubbornness, faith, and — to quote the late Ruth Gordon — never facing facts. I am now poised to turn my life into what I want.

By the way, and speaking of Ruth Gordon…if you ever want to see a movie about affirming life, check out the wonderful <a href=http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0067185/Harold and Maude. That and the equally wonderful Hairspray, (preferably the original John Waters film, although the more recent version with John Travolta is also good) had a huge influence in cementing my belief in following your heart.

]]> By: Ariella http://otherdeb.wordpress.com/2008/06/16/50/#comment-149 Ariella Mon, 16 Jun 2008 23:41:51 +0000 http://otherdeb.wordpress.com/?p=50#comment-149 Hi Deb, you know me through Chris, and you gave me the most pretty brown stone necklace that i still wear. I feel with you. My mom compared me to other children when i was younger..."why cant you be more like her?". I too grew up believing that i was dumb. The yeshivah teachers were not much better... I am told that i am smart and i still do not believe it. I also dont believe it when a peice of my artwork gets sold, or someone tells me i am a brilliant artist. The damage has been done. Hi Deb, you know me through Chris, and you gave me the most pretty brown stone necklace that i still wear.

I feel with you. My mom compared me to other children when i was younger…”why cant you be more like her?”. I too grew up believing that i was dumb. The yeshivah teachers were not much better… I am told that i am smart and i still do not believe it. I also dont believe it when a peice of my artwork gets sold, or someone tells me i am a brilliant artist. The damage has been done.

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